Embracing Solo Splendor: Navigating the Maze of Singlehood in a Couple-Centric World
Written by: Marina Townsend
There's an age bracket which is expanding backwards but let's say 30+ where being single amongst a friendship group of couples is extremely annoying! You've either got friends egging you on to talk to the mediocre man lingering by the bar, or the constant conversations revolving around your non existent love life, or the new girlfriend that is icy because although you've been friends with her man for over 10 years, you can never be sure! But in most cases it's all of the above combined with the awkwardness feeling of being the single friend period.
Perfecting the importance of self love is an ongoing journey, one that starts at different stages for everyone and one that can be easily tampered with when someone suggests that being single is a crime.
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God made us with the intention of companionship and love but intended for us to be whole and devoted to him first and foremost before inviting another being in.
The idea of internal peace is a luxury to many and making that the ultimate goal should be on everyone's agenda, but what that shouldn't mean is that, that can only come when being in a relationship.
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I am a true believer of finding your forever person and making that forever commitment; but society, inclusive of our parents and grandparents have pressured us into making this commitment by a specific child bearing age.
What that has meant for many is breakdown in communication, silent heartbreaks, built up trauma and if not truly acknowledged ongoing resentment.
This curse I mention is one that comes from the judgy spectators that somehow hold themselves on this self proclaimed pedestal looking down on the single girlies that refuses to compromise on their values for the sake of a status.
In closing, I want to send you this brief message, a notification, to honor and appreciate you just as you are. Resist the relentless pressures and expectations of those who believe that success hinges on being in a relationship, even if it means compromising your values.
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Embrace the journey of self-discovery and find solace in solitude, for it will amplify the joy when you and your partner finally unite.
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